No kidding? There are way too many parents who would disagree with this study, but there are millions of citizens who have been shouting this for years. It's way past time for America to begin holding parents responsible for their kids' behaviour. Parenting is a responsibility that is shirked big time and something needs to be done about parents who don't take that responsibility seriously.

Parenting influences behaviour? Who Knew? .....bloody common sense... mumble, mumble...

I'm in shock! Bad parents make bad kids? They did a study for this? I dont' think girls are as naturally prone to bad behavior anyway. But they did a study anyway.

In other news;

Water is wet!

Ducks quack!

People need to breathe air to live!

I have repeated that on way too many boards. Although, I'm sure there are still parents that don't believe it they have anything to do with their child's shortcomings or negative attributes. I'm sorry, they aren't parents, they're just breeders. They expect teachers, day care workers, and corporate America to be their offspring's parents while they go off to work, get their hair and nails done, to the gym, and go shopping. Then of course they need a little "me time". But their kids are smart! They pretty much raise themselves with the help of tv, video games, movies, and the internet.

I fear what this country will be like in 15-20 years. Let's all keep in mind that today's youth is tommorrow's leaders. That, and they are learning how to be a parent to their children from how their parents raise them.

Our culture--in the name of free speech and entertainment--systematically teaches anti-social and irresponsible behaviour, including the selfishness and materialism that result in poor parenting skills. By the time an adult in our country reaches an age where sufficient experiential learning has taught them the value of responsible behaviour (or more importantly the folly of irresponsible behaviour) their children are grown, messed up, and living their own irresponsible and dysfunctional lives, and repeating the cycle.

It's time we forget political correctness and false self-esteem and call stupidity what it is. There's nothing wrong with telling someone that what they're doing is self-destructive, unkind, or just plain dumb.

It's a bummer, but good parenting requires energy, patience and consistency(which requires even more energy!) This is often asking too much in a society that is already pretty physically and emotionally exhausted. Parenting really does need to be taught, or at least modeled and it has to be respected if any of this is going to change. People seem to be a little caught up in being the 'fun' parent, but if that were all it was about, the kids really wouldn't need us at all!

I can only say this, I new a guy who raised to step boys, treated them like dirt, told anyone they weren't his kids, both boys are in prison now. I raised to step boys, loved them like my own, the youngest just finished college. To me they were the boys I never had, but always wanted. If this is any example, then yes, parents do make a difference.

After years of watching bad parenting I realized that you can't teach what you don't know, or to value things you don't actually value. You can't teach a child respect for others if you have none, you can't teach a child patience if you have none, you can't teach a child how to delay gratification if you're averse to doing it yourself, you can't teach a child to value education if you don't. Apparently all this isn't as obvious as it may seem.

People also need to learn that having children is not a mandatory part of life. A lot of people put more thought into buying a tv than having kids. Not everyone's personality is compatible with parenting, and that's fine. I'll use myself as an example. I'm very intelligent and have strong moral values. People tell me that I'm the type of person that should be having kids. But I know better. I'm very impatient and get easily angered if people don't listen to me. I can easily see myself getting violent with a belligerent child. I would be very disappointed with a child that chose a different path in life than the one I had envisioned for him/her. And I require a lot of "alone time," so I'd be forever barking at the kid to leave me alone.

It's because of those traits (and a myriad of other reasons that I won't get into here) that I chose to never have children. And that's okay.

To raise authentic, confident, respectful children, the process starts at infancy with the parent showing respect to the child. A baby is not a toy, not a fashion accessory, not a pet, and not something that needs 'fixing'. http://bit.ly/comtDD

Parenting does play a big role in raising a child but peer pressure also contributes to how you child will turn out. My kids were raised on a military base for 12 years. When I was to be transferred I decided to buy a home in the local community. I was hesitant at first because of them going to a public school with no military kids. I found that schools with just military kids had more discipline and order. I did buy a home and they went to the local public school. The first few years went well but once they went to high school things began to change. The biggest change I noticed was my boys cared more about what their peers had to say than me. Long story short, things worked out for the best, not exactly how I would have like but they don’t use drugs, both are gainfully employed and are not in trouble with the law, I guess you can’t ask for more than that. But still it seem that my boys listened to other before me (the parent).

How much did they pay for this study? They could have asked any middle school teacher and they could have told them that bad, uninvolved parents raise the boys (and girls) with the worst behaviors. This is a case of if you are going to have kids...parent them.

I find this article as disturbing as yelling fire in a crowded theater. No single event, or event patterns can attribute to something as complex as human behavior. This must be taken in accordance with the larger aspects of personality. Genetics and environmental factors are both major players in the growth and development of ones personality. Daily, as people, we are forced to engage and manage stressors. How one is able to use their collective tools, learned or coded, for management is as different as the individual. To blame parents for all behaviors is paramount to blaming the car maker for the speed one drives ones car. Irresponsible reporting of a single study better suited for politics than parenting.

Parenting boys is very different from parenting girls. In this culture boys are increasingly coming to school from under-fathered homes. Less be clear it is not just poor boys from single parent homes, but boys of privilege where their fathers are only a passing influence in their lives that are under-fathered. That places a special burden on the parenting relationship. Far too many parents are interested in being friends with their boys instead of raising them to be successful men. Children, especially our boys, are not meant to be our companions. If we don't address the special parenting needs of boys we will produce a generation of under-developed men unprepared for lives challenges.

I agree with many of the other posts, that fact that people are researching whether parenting impacts kids or not is a waste of time. Thats like feeling the need to research if we need air to breathe. We need research that actually presents strategies that have made a difference. Studies that give parents reliable sugestions for how to be good parents and raise kids that actually impact the world instead of destroy it.

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This article is a total waste of time. Doing a study on the importance of parenting is like doing a study on whether we need air to breathe on not. Instead parents need research showing key ideas that stimulate growth and development for their kids. Strategies that have a proven track record for raising healthy productive citizens.

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NO ONE should be giving advice on parenting unless they have children themselves!! Parenting is the hardest job in the world, but the most rewarding. I do agree that raising the child is the parents duty not the school or the state. Please do not judge unless you have a child.