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A mom's voice is like Einstein's "spooky action at a distance". It can be magic.
My Mom died when I was very young, so I learned how to be my own Mom's voice to myself. We can tell when our calming hormones are rising, of course. We don't need to test that.
I also use my voice to calm animals in the yard (birds, deer, red fox...) and my own family, pets and even the neighbors. I've been referred to as St. Kayci of Asissi :)
Here's the real magic and the spooky action. I discovered I don't have to talk out loud at all. I can direct the calming or friendly ideas toward an animal or person and imagine floating my idea in a cloud of colors overhead, like a rainbow. Then if they want to receive it, they do. We can't force it on anyone, as there is an automatic shield that we each have that prevents that. But we can each offer it. So cool!
If you try it, you can watch yourself make a difference. A very simple one is, "Peace be with you.". If your object chooses to receive this, it has a profound effect.
There is so much to discover about ourselves!
Really? For me it's the other way around. Any time I hear my mother's voice I get MORE tense, not less. Maybe it has to do with the fact that in her eyes I cannot do anything right.
It sounds like your Mom's under a lot of stress herself. You could try the opposite and see if your voice can reassure and comfort her. It might be an interesting study.
Problem is I can't stand to be around her because she is so toxic to me. Even a phone call can leave me in tears. I'd rather just let it go to voicemail and deal with her when *I* want to.
I agree with you. The only thing to do with toxic situations is to stay out of them!
belle, I agree with you. My mother did nothing but stress me out for as long back as I can remember. She finally cut ties with me, which upset me (of course, I couldn't please her) and yet, now with her out of my life, I am so much calmer and just... better. The toxic situation has been removed.
Oh great, my mom is dead, so now, what do I do?
Interesting results, I am a father of two girls, I am curious of the correlation between a fathers voice and stress levels
I would certainly say that the results would be the same. As long as a parent loves their child, it must be a great comfort to hear their voice.
I'm not so sure about the results being the same for that. Not to sound sexist here, but there is a big difference in being a mom as opposed to a dad. Unless the kid has issues with the mom, I would assume that it's her voice that would calm the most, because typically, mom is the one we go to when we need comforting.
If the mom is not around and it's just the dad, I would assume that it for sure would be the dad's voice to make things better because that's all the kid had growing up and that's what always comforted them before. Even though dads have gotten better over the last several years in reaching out to their children, being there for them, etc., as opposed to only being the "disciplinarian" like when I was growing up, there's just something about mom that calms us down.
I can see it in my daughter whenever she has an argument or a fight with my mother - her grandmother. The three of us live together and have for some time now. Her father is not in the picture and never was... but when she needs comforting, at the age of 12 she still comes straight to me and at times even tries to cuddle with me - (which doesn't work anymore since she's the same size as I am). But I can see it in her face when I am able to comfort her the way she wants. By just talking to her like she's an adult rather than a pre-teen, it helps calm her and also makes it so that she tells me in more detail about whatever problem she has. This helps when it comes to her friends or boys at school, as kids tend to keep quiet about these things.
I've always wondered about those people in a coma and whether family talking to them constantly did help... seems to be true, and I think that's pretty cool.
Right. I call my mom to tell her of sadness, an illness or injury and she tells be to buck up, go for a walk and stop feeling sorry for myself. People who lived through the 40's. Gotta love 'em.
Myson has epilepsy and often I can end a seizure by talking to him and telling him to wake up now. Even my husband has to reluctantly agree that by me talking to him, his seizures are calmer and do not last as long. He cannot get the same results, but I agree with Lmasure, he talks in a much different tone. Let's face it, we have been taught to have a more singsong calming tone when talking to children or animals.
I have it on first hand authority that a mother's voice or a voice from any loved one breaks through to a comatose person.
I do not need another government funded study to prove this. Many of us do not as well. Just ask around. I can think of three times when people, who I love, heard me when the doctors were telling me "impossible."
I also know of mothers and daughters who have had the same experience.
I have experienced this first hand. I have been bringing my kid out of powerful seizures for over five years now. It doesn't matter who else speaks to her or what actions are taken, it is her mom's voice that she will respond to--by opening her eyes or by speaking, even if she is not completely "back" from the seizure. It doesn't matter to me if she remembers what brought her out of the seizure, I just know it works.
My cousin was in a major accident on his motorcycle a few years ago and landed on his head. If it weren't for his helmet, he would have died but the impact alone still caused major swelling in his brain. When he was in a drug induced coma, if his swelling started to rise, all his mom had to do was to talk to him gently and immediately, the swelling would go down dramatically.
I absolutely believe the power of your mother's voice. And it makes sense--it's the first voice we hear in our womb and the first relative we connect with.
My mother's touch and voice are better than any drug. Hugs are even better.
I did not awaken for 3 days after brain surgery...I was in ICU and they were quite worried. The only response they could get was when my husband would talk and try to awaken me I would flick my eye lids...he said he was so upset at the ICU hours...he was afraid he was the only one that could get me to awaken. So I truly believe in certain voices and our responses.
Does this work the same when you call your grandma? She was always the better one to talk to for me, at least she would asked questions and doesn't seem preoccupied, unlike my mom.
Good study. I'm pretty sure that this would work with anyone who really loves you. We all respond to the love we hear in the voice of someone who loves us.
Um... if I was upset or on edge, the last person I would call is my mom. I'm sorry. I love my mom but she isn't much of a comforter. I'm glad that I'm in the minority of this as I'm sure most mom's are great comforters. God bless them!
What the hell is the point of not including boys? Clearly, the study has limited value (if any). Why do we not ensure that all studies funded by any federal dollars are fairly representative of the population as a whole--male and female?
How much did this study cost and what are the expected rewards ($$$) that we can expect to see paid back resulting from this study??