I am also a worrier. Have been one all my life. The habit was probably passed down from my mother. Parents often transfer this time-wasting habit on to their kids. I worried so much, as a child, then as an adult that I wrote a book on it to see if doing the research would help. Indeed, it does. But I'm a work-in-progress. Worriers may want to check out my book; I still do. It's called THE WORRYWART'S PRAYER BOOK. I also have a blog (and I worry that I don't keep it current enough), called THE WORRYWART'S CORNER. Meantime, give all your worries to God. He's the only one Who can make any sense of them.
Things will work out...They always seems to. I have a 10 year old son that is also a worry-wart. He always worries about the time, where we are, when he can play, when he has to go to bed and so on. It was affecting his schooling and we decided to take him to a doctor. The doctor ended up putting him on Focalin. It is a stimulant (yes, a stimulant, it reacts differently in kids that have attention issues) and he has been much better. We only give it to him on school days. He is doing much better. When he is not on focalin, we just work really hard and assure him that things will be ok and to work on things that you have control over. Good luck.
I believe the child will mimic his/her parent (s). If his/her parent is anxious, frenetic etc chances are your kid will be as well. I've come across a few parents who don't understand why their kid is hyper. I feel like saying "look at yourself and you'll find the answer." I'm not saying this is true in every case but in many instances it is learned behavior.
Too many parents tell kids way too much. Kids should be carefree. They shouldn't have to worry about finances, oil spills etc. A five year old should be playing with toys and having fun with friends. They shouldn't have adult worries. There is plenty of time for that.
My son is worried that one of the latest batch of H1b's from india will take his job and he'll end up living under a bridge. He's one of a group that American Corporations hate, AMERICAN!
Yes, DNA is inherited up to a point. Environment plays a role here too. I do NOT want to open up a stay at home vs work outside the home argument, as I have been both and respect both. I will say one of the reasons I went back to work (when my kids were school age) is I self realized that I was worrying over everything about them and that was a result of not having enough going on in my own life. Now we are all happy, mom is back at work w/ and not fretting over her kids play dates etc...Just a thought. BTW, Freud came up with this over a 100 years ago lol
I bet the changes in society play a big part too. When I grew up I did not have to worry. My parents were selfless and took care of that for us. They let us focus on learning the basics of growing up. They taught by example; all problems can be solved. Now days many people think their happiness is the center of the universe. They feel they should share ALL of their feelings and angst. They spew their feelings like vomit all over everyone who comes near them including children. Even the media and schools target children to solve the world problems because adults are too selfish to sacrfice and solve them. I look around and wonder when this society will get it and stop all the whining, get to work, and appreciate a little tough love and real sacrifice.
AS a teacher of at-risk kids, I see a lot of anxiety. For one thing, we're better at diagnosing it. Before, we just wrote it off as another behavioral issue. However, we now know what we're looking for. I see just as many kids with anxiety issues where there is a stay at home parent as when there isn't. What I see are parents with the same issues. Most kids who have been diagnosed with anxiety disorders do well with a combination of individual/family counseling and medication.
As I stated in the above post about my son and his over the top anxiety. I am not an anxious person. So, he doesn't get the behavior from me. I often worry if it was a medicine that I was on while my first tri-mester of a medicine he was on to help with his severe refulx as a newborn. His anxiety is so bad that he chews the skin off of his fingers and palms. He has chewed it till it burns and he is crying. He will tell you he can't stop it. He is on a small dose of adderal to help but the dose is so tiny. Zoloft seems extreme for me but when it affects his everyday life I think twice. He sees a therapist and a pyschiatrist. This is a child who has known docs all his life due to his medical issues. Had a feeding tube, and kidney disease. His teachers refuse to help him.
I am so sorry to hear about your son. I had a student similar to your son last year. She was diagnosed with severe anxiety at age 2. Her diagnosis was autism with possible bi-polar. Medication and therapy help some, but academically her needs are being met in a special education class with only a few students. Too bad that your teachers are not helpful. Are they regular classroom teachers. If so, they may not have the expertise or background in order to help. My child was a special education student with bi-polar disorder, ADHD, anxiety, OCD, depression, and a higher order language skill deficit. Her medication (which started in second grade), was consistently changed until the right mix was found, but it was worth it. Once they found the right mix (which includes lithium) things began to change for her. She is 19 now, went to trade school, is a CNA in a nursing home, and planning to go to LPN school. She will never be "cured". Her life will look different from most people, but I predict she will live a quality life. When I think of the times she tried to commit suicide, the time she was raped, the times she ran away from home, and the run ins with police, I thank God for where she is now. She also received Special ED. services that I really had to fight for. Best wishes to you and your family.
He was diagnosed with Adhd and mood disorder but truthfully I am not so sure it's adhd. I have seen him hyper at times he is more impulsive than anything. He was 6 when he climbed a 20 ft light pole because he wanted to see if he could. He has on purpose walked up to hot kerosene heater and touched it and then didn't shed one tear as he blistered his hand all up. I even warned him hey becareful it's hot honey and still went up and did it. We have had nights where he is CONVINCED someone is in the house and going to harm him. Complete hysterics and not matter how much I comfort him and show him he isnt comforted. He was given a 504 plan and that is it. But here we are 4 days before start of school and the teacher that does 504 plan wasn't even aware that school had placed him into it. I pray that he can be a normal kid and normal adult and take care of himself. He is so needy and babyish.
I don't know the situation, but it sounds as if he might need an IEP (individualized education plan). If he has a medical diagnosis such as anxiety disorder, and it has been verified by a doctor, he could receive some kind of special ed. support. Some doctors require the school to give educational and psycological testing before they give a diagnosis. It sounds like this might not be a bad idea for your son. Please remember, though, that if he has a medical issue the school can only do so much. They are not doctors. I've heard of children taking zoloft. It may take trial doses of meds ( with counseling) to see what works. I can only say that it was worth it for our situation.
we had IEP meeting and testing. In fact I am on way to school soon to set up his 504 plan. He didn't qualify for IEP. I will cross my fingers this is a good year.
Here's a thought - get your kid away from TV news, which dwells on doom and gloom. Save the grown-up talk for private mom & dad time, What 5-year-old needs to know about the oil spill or his parents finances? He'll have plenty of time to worry when he gets older. Right now his biggest concerns should be coloring inside the lines and whether he wants grape or strawberry jelly on his PB&J sandwich.
I also agree whole-heartedly!! Unfortunately, the schools have adopted some of that "political" gloom and doom. I remember one of my kids coming home from school very upset because we were all guilty of killing the polar bears. They had watched Al Gore's movie-The Inconvenient Truth, which as you know has been found to have many falacies in it. This is just one example of some of the indoctrination kids are subjected to.
the answer is always medication, and i don't like that thought. My daughter and my step son worry so much (age11) that we try and talk to them about why they worry. We try to point out that they should only worry about things that they can control. They are both part of divorced parents and the fact its puberty time, but i don't think starting them on a medication is the best answer. Talking through things and helping them see what is going on and why they react this way is the way we are helping them.
Of course, you want to pursue other avenues first. I certainly did. But parents who refuse medication when it is recommended have no idea how these kids suffer at school academically, socially, and emotionally. I look at it this way. If I have a sinus infection, I'm going to take antibiotics. If I have a bad headache, I'm going to take tylenol. With that in mind, if I have a chemical imbalance I'm going to take medication so that I can live a quality life. I have seen so many children's lives completely changed for the better when they go on meds. The stigma associated with meds is, thankfully, changing. Most of my parents who finally give in and give meds are usually upset with themselves for not doing it earlier. Meds saved my child's life. I couldn't ask for anything more.
The reason that you hear medication so much is that medical research has come a long way in detecting chemical brain disorders. That is a good thing. I am so thankful that there are meds out there that can help people. I think it's a wonderful thing. I certainly don't think that every behavior needs medication, but I'm glad it's there if needed.
The chiropractic adjustment increases stimulus via the spinal cerebellar tract which in turn inhibits activity of the amygdala...........less anxiety!!! Works everytime....so if you are on anti-anxiety meds or have young children with anxiety...please avoid the meds and consult a subluxation based chiropractor!!!
I will have to ask because the thought of putting my 7 year old on zoloft even at 12.5 mg is scaring me. What if there is a genuine mental defect though? There has been some signs of anxiety w/ paranoia as well. I don't let him watch news, anything scary, keep conversations away from him and I monitor who he plays with. He isn't allowed to play any video games except for mario brothers, cooking mama, and little league world series.
Are there many of these chiropracters around? How could one find out more about this and if someone in our areas do this? Thank-you for sharing this information.
Is your child a worrier? What tops his or her list of worries?
Linda, I have a 7 year old who has major anxiety and it affects daily life. His doctor wants him on zoloft and I am scared.
Please consult a subluxation based chiropractor for your child.
I know what a chiropractor is but what is the first word?
I am also a worrier. Have been one all my life. The habit was probably passed down from my mother. Parents often transfer this time-wasting habit on to their kids. I worried so much, as a child, then as an adult that I wrote a book on it to see if doing the research would help. Indeed, it does. But I'm a work-in-progress. Worriers may want to check out my book; I still do. It's called THE WORRYWART'S PRAYER BOOK. I also have a blog (and I worry that I don't keep it current enough), called THE WORRYWART'S CORNER. Meantime, give all your worries to God. He's the only one Who can make any sense of them.
Things will work out...They always seems to. I have a 10 year old son that is also a worry-wart. He always worries about the time, where we are, when he can play, when he has to go to bed and so on. It was affecting his schooling and we decided to take him to a doctor. The doctor ended up putting him on Focalin. It is a stimulant (yes, a stimulant, it reacts differently in kids that have attention issues) and he has been much better. We only give it to him on school days. He is doing much better. When he is not on focalin, we just work really hard and assure him that things will be ok and to work on things that you have control over. Good luck.
I believe the child will mimic his/her parent (s). If his/her parent is anxious, frenetic etc chances are your kid will be as well. I've come across a few parents who don't understand why their kid is hyper. I feel like saying "look at yourself and you'll find the answer." I'm not saying this is true in every case but in many instances it is learned behavior.
Too many parents tell kids way too much. Kids should be carefree. They shouldn't have to worry about finances, oil spills etc. A five year old should be playing with toys and having fun with friends. They shouldn't have adult worries. There is plenty of time for that.
My son is worried that one of the latest batch of H1b's from india will take his job and he'll end up living under a bridge. He's one of a group that American Corporations hate, AMERICAN!
Yes, DNA is inherited up to a point. Environment plays a role here too. I do NOT want to open up a stay at home vs work outside the home argument, as I have been both and respect both. I will say one of the reasons I went back to work (when my kids were school age) is I self realized that I was worrying over everything about them and that was a result of not having enough going on in my own life. Now we are all happy, mom is back at work w/ and not fretting over her kids play dates etc...Just a thought. BTW, Freud came up with this over a 100 years ago lol
I bet the changes in society play a big part too. When I grew up I did not have to worry. My parents were selfless and took care of that for us. They let us focus on learning the basics of growing up. They taught by example; all problems can be solved. Now days many people think their happiness is the center of the universe. They feel they should share ALL of their feelings and angst. They spew their feelings like vomit all over everyone who comes near them including children. Even the media and schools target children to solve the world problems because adults are too selfish to sacrfice and solve them. I look around and wonder when this society will get it and stop all the whining, get to work, and appreciate a little tough love and real sacrifice.
AS a teacher of at-risk kids, I see a lot of anxiety. For one thing, we're better at diagnosing it. Before, we just wrote it off as another behavioral issue. However, we now know what we're looking for. I see just as many kids with anxiety issues where there is a stay at home parent as when there isn't. What I see are parents with the same issues. Most kids who have been diagnosed with anxiety disorders do well with a combination of individual/family counseling and medication.
As I stated in the above post about my son and his over the top anxiety. I am not an anxious person. So, he doesn't get the behavior from me. I often worry if it was a medicine that I was on while my first tri-mester of a medicine he was on to help with his severe refulx as a newborn. His anxiety is so bad that he chews the skin off of his fingers and palms. He has chewed it till it burns and he is crying. He will tell you he can't stop it. He is on a small dose of adderal to help but the dose is so tiny. Zoloft seems extreme for me but when it affects his everyday life I think twice. He sees a therapist and a pyschiatrist. This is a child who has known docs all his life due to his medical issues. Had a feeding tube, and kidney disease. His teachers refuse to help him.
I am so sorry to hear about your son. I had a student similar to your son last year. She was diagnosed with severe anxiety at age 2. Her diagnosis was autism with possible bi-polar. Medication and therapy help some, but academically her needs are being met in a special education class with only a few students. Too bad that your teachers are not helpful. Are they regular classroom teachers. If so, they may not have the expertise or background in order to help. My child was a special education student with bi-polar disorder, ADHD, anxiety, OCD, depression, and a higher order language skill deficit. Her medication (which started in second grade), was consistently changed until the right mix was found, but it was worth it. Once they found the right mix (which includes lithium) things began to change for her. She is 19 now, went to trade school, is a CNA in a nursing home, and planning to go to LPN school. She will never be "cured". Her life will look different from most people, but I predict she will live a quality life. When I think of the times she tried to commit suicide, the time she was raped, the times she ran away from home, and the run ins with police, I thank God for where she is now. She also received Special ED. services that I really had to fight for. Best wishes to you and your family.
He was diagnosed with Adhd and mood disorder but truthfully I am not so sure it's adhd. I have seen him hyper at times he is more impulsive than anything. He was 6 when he climbed a 20 ft light pole because he wanted to see if he could. He has on purpose walked up to hot kerosene heater and touched it and then didn't shed one tear as he blistered his hand all up. I even warned him hey becareful it's hot honey and still went up and did it. We have had nights where he is CONVINCED someone is in the house and going to harm him. Complete hysterics and not matter how much I comfort him and show him he isnt comforted. He was given a 504 plan and that is it. But here we are 4 days before start of school and the teacher that does 504 plan wasn't even aware that school had placed him into it. I pray that he can be a normal kid and normal adult and take care of himself. He is so needy and babyish.
I don't know the situation, but it sounds as if he might need an IEP (individualized education plan). If he has a medical diagnosis such as anxiety disorder, and it has been verified by a doctor, he could receive some kind of special ed. support. Some doctors require the school to give educational and psycological testing before they give a diagnosis. It sounds like this might not be a bad idea for your son. Please remember, though, that if he has a medical issue the school can only do so much. They are not doctors. I've heard of children taking zoloft. It may take trial doses of meds ( with counseling) to see what works. I can only say that it was worth it for our situation.
we had IEP meeting and testing. In fact I am on way to school soon to set up his 504 plan. He didn't qualify for IEP. I will cross my fingers this is a good year.
Here's a thought - get your kid away from TV news, which dwells on doom and gloom. Save the grown-up talk for private mom & dad time, What 5-year-old needs to know about the oil spill or his parents finances? He'll have plenty of time to worry when he gets older. Right now his biggest concerns should be coloring inside the lines and whether he wants grape or strawberry jelly on his PB&J sandwich.
i agree!
I also agree whole-heartedly!! Unfortunately, the schools have adopted some of that "political" gloom and doom. I remember one of my kids coming home from school very upset because we were all guilty of killing the polar bears. They had watched Al Gore's movie-The Inconvenient Truth, which as you know has been found to have many falacies in it. This is just one example of some of the indoctrination kids are subjected to.
the answer is always medication, and i don't like that thought. My daughter and my step son worry so much (age11) that we try and talk to them about why they worry. We try to point out that they should only worry about things that they can control. They are both part of divorced parents and the fact its puberty time, but i don't think starting them on a medication is the best answer. Talking through things and helping them see what is going on and why they react this way is the way we are helping them.
Of course, you want to pursue other avenues first. I certainly did. But parents who refuse medication when it is recommended have no idea how these kids suffer at school academically, socially, and emotionally. I look at it this way. If I have a sinus infection, I'm going to take antibiotics. If I have a bad headache, I'm going to take tylenol. With that in mind, if I have a chemical imbalance I'm going to take medication so that I can live a quality life. I have seen so many children's lives completely changed for the better when they go on meds. The stigma associated with meds is, thankfully, changing. Most of my parents who finally give in and give meds are usually upset with themselves for not doing it earlier. Meds saved my child's life. I couldn't ask for anything more.
The reason that you hear medication so much is that medical research has come a long way in detecting chemical brain disorders. That is a good thing. I am so thankful that there are meds out there that can help people. I think it's a wonderful thing. I certainly don't think that every behavior needs medication, but I'm glad it's there if needed.
The chiropractic adjustment increases stimulus via the spinal cerebellar tract which in turn inhibits activity of the amygdala...........less anxiety!!! Works everytime....so if you are on anti-anxiety meds or have young children with anxiety...please avoid the meds and consult a subluxation based chiropractor!!!
I will have to ask because the thought of putting my 7 year old on zoloft even at 12.5 mg is scaring me. What if there is a genuine mental defect though? There has been some signs of anxiety w/ paranoia as well. I don't let him watch news, anything scary, keep conversations away from him and I monitor who he plays with. He isn't allowed to play any video games except for mario brothers, cooking mama, and little league world series.
Are there many of these chiropracters around? How could one find out more about this and if someone in our areas do this? Thank-you for sharing this information.