Yes, this study contradicts a previous study, where they found that married men don't actually live longer - it just seems longer.

Consider the benefits of divorce then (for you AND your spouse).

Andy - very well put.

What they fail to acknowledge is that being single is not what contributes to the higher death rate it is the lifestyle associated with it.

"Singles who survive their younger years actually fare well over a lifespan. The relative risk of death for singles aged 30 to 39-years-old was 128 percent greater than among married people of the same age, but decreased to about 16 percent for single 70-year-olds when compared to 70-year olds in wedded bliss,"

Sitting at home watching TV and changing diapers isn't going to kill you nearly as quickly as actualy being out in the world doing stuff. Even after all the additional damage the single incur in their younger years, if they manage to survive they still fare nearly as well as the married in old age.

PuddleDuck

married men don't actually live longer - it just seems longer.

Married men don't actually live. PERIOD!

msn has always been bias with their relationship information. I crack up everytime

To Pduck..that depends on whom you're married to ;-). Women can feel the same..

Marriage is a three-ring circus! There is the engagement ring... the wedding ring... and the suffering!

lol

Andy Capp You are so right and you are funny. Who wants to be in the middle of the road waiting for a truck to hit you. Get married you won't need to wait.

What about single guys who live with a woman until the BS starts and then move on to the next one before they have to put up with the BS. As they say the best part of the relationship is the first few years.

As Charlie Daniels said-Ain't never been with a woman long enough for my boots to grow old...

That was Marshall Tucker not CDB but, it sure sounds like something he would say.

I'm reminded of a routine comedian Alan King used to do often showing why men, on average, die at an earlier age than women. He would pull up actual obituary listings where the survivors were mentioned. Almost every deceased married man left behind a 'loving wife', regardless of age. Why does a married man usually die before the wife? - Because they want to! : )

You realize that you COULD find a partner who has a job and doesn't care that you're in a bad state right now, right? Statistics show that it's not as common, but it's not impossible.

And I'm no staunch Obama defender or anything, but blaming him and congress for you not being able to get married is just frankly bizarre. What do you want them to do, start a national matchmaking database? No wonder you have unrealistic expectations.

Does the government support system help singles out? No. But what you're proposing isn't necessarily related to that. So just hold still while I call the Waaahmbulance.

Obama isn't stupid, far from it. He just happens to hate the traditional American way. His, (and his helpers), destructive actions are doing exactly what he wants.

While he might not have been born in Kenya, he wants to turn the U.S. into another Kenya.

Okay,people. What about quality of life? Doesn't that count? Married or single really doesn't really matter when you consider the quality of life in America is going down the toilet... and who is holding the flush handle?

Quality of Life is in the eyes of the beholder. Mine is just fine and I think it would improve with Universal Healthcare so it is change I believe in.

Darthdon. Your traditional concepts would leave us in the dark ages. I think Obama is definately leading the country in a better direction though with limited success right now.

I agree w/all that you are saying! That just might make a difference. I just want to add, stop working against the baby boomers. We need to continue to work as well.

I feel like our country has been sold away just so the rich can get richer. What are these people thinking about? I sure hope they are happy with their mega millions! This has been going on for at least 30 years. So you see the rich have gotten comfortable with their mega millions.

Thank goodness our President is trying to put a stop to it! You can say what you want to about him, at least he's has the balls to stand up about it! :)

ARose.

I'm more middle of the road. I don't believe in punishing success either. If someone works hard and becomes a millionaire we shouldn't punish them because we couldn't do the same. As long as they pay a share proportionate to what I pay thats all I want. On the flip side the conservative thinking is I've got mine screw you, that is a self centered attitude I can't grasp.

"You realize that you COULD find a partner who has a job and doesn't care that you're in a bad state right now, right? Statistics show that it's not as common, but it's not impossible."

Obviously those who generated those "statistics" haven't read any profiles on any of the singles web sites, 90% of the women come right out and state things like "you must have a job/be financially secure etc..."

govhater: Maybe those writing the ads just don't want to have to support YOU?

How about "Get off your whiny ass and quit trying to blame your failure at love on the government"? The government is really all you want to whine about here. You don't really want to deal with the real reasons you don't have anyone in your life and until you do,you'll never fix anything. And I suspect you'll never have the stones to go fix anything, much less your problems with love and relationships...

There are jobs in America. But these jobs require education and skill. You may even have to move to a different part of the country. But we have to stop blaming the government for our problems and start doing for ourselves. If you are waiting for this dysfunctional government to solve your problems, you will be waiting for a lifetime.

ROFLMAO

So Barbara

Not only the guy would be wrong always, but you damn him to be blessedly wrong also?

Wow...90% of your happiness, huh? If your spouse ever leaves you it sounds like you're screwed! A wise man once told me you have to be happy by yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Also, marriage, to the right person, is supposed to enhance your life, not be your life.

If you can't be happy by yourself then sure as hell aren't going to be happy with someone else.

Well said Barbara and I agree.

From a brother in Christ...AMEN SISTER

I agree with Barbara M, Denise, JerseyKay, Cassie226. I divorced 2 men and am so blissfully happy! And, no (Tad S, loaderman, Here is Why and all the other men who stress a woman out so much that she is depressed, stressed & overeats to find comfort), I am not all dried up. I am turning 61 and am told by everyone (and I mean EVERYONE) that I can pass for 40-43. I have about eight grey hairs, last count. No, I don't dye it. No wrinkles. No, I have not had Botox or plastic surgery. I am a size 6-8 because I stopped stress eating/being depressed over husbands' frustrating/painful behaviors. I used to get a cold/flu every Fall, like clockwork, when married and/or in a relationship. Since my last divorce, I have not been sick in 20 years. Not even a sniffle. It is the Body, Mind, Spirit connection. I am a holistic doctor, vegetarian, meditate, do yoga and keep toxic people out of my social life. And, men. (And, yes I am straight.) Younger men try to date me, also. Most are young enough to be my sons. The thought of remarrying causes me stress. I don't even want to date because even dating brings some degree of stress and drama. I don't want to ruin my blissful, gratifying life. And, my first husband (3 yrs older than I) & a doctor, also, is totally grey and looks haggard, now. And, he cried & begged when I left him 28 yrs ago. And, my second husband (a year younger than I) is remorseful to this day. Every time they see me and my success, they know they lost a good thing. Neither remarried. No one else will put up with them, for long. With my good health and looks, I know I will live a long life. I will not consider losing my health by dating or marriage, again. So blissfully happy with my medical practice, humanitarian medical work in other countries and my cute little dogs. (No children with either man, either- thank God! Probably, part of the reason that I have not aged, also.) As they say- living well is the best revenge!

I totally agree with Cassandra - well put.

TadS = "My wife on the other hand, has somehow managed to double her weight in the last 10 years and then she wonders why I'm not interested. Duh! LOL."

@ Tads = No, she probably wonders why you are not interested because you have never been man enough to tell her the truth.

your soulmate is whom? the person from grade school you married-it seems that person would be the closest and most logical opportunity. The world is quite random.

Having a pet can make people live longer-its having something else near you to care for and vice versa. Sorry the study is hypothetical-conclusive but too specified.

Yeah, and married women never cheat...no, not ever. B.S. If anything, they do it at least just as much, they just hide it better.

I am 47 years old and have never been married. It has never been a priority for me plus I love dating and meeting new people. I am so content in my life (mostly because I am a believer in Christ) that it's not necessary....for now. I am sure I will die (or be raptured) when I am supposed to - but not because I am single. :O)

Denise 3933210, it sounds like you have some harsh mental issues going on there that may be the root cause of your delusions, seek psychiatric care

We cheat b/c you eat too much.

all you got to do is look a the girls mother, if she is big run.

Denise,

The study was on being married and living longer, not cheating...wtf?over If the wifes would give it up and mix it up a little more men would not stray. check out pornhub or mad thumb for examples.

^^^(#6.6) I wish that was true LOL. My wife's mom is probably 100lbs less than the tubbaleupagus.

All the single women you know must hate men, Denise. That's a very one-sided argument you have there. Give me proof or I'm calling BS that you even read the entire article.

These results are not 100% accurate Or certain. I don't know where you got cheating from...but you're either involved with douche bag men or you and your girls' attitudes is what drives them away, based off your comment.

I completely agree with Denise 3933210. I was married for almost 20 years and the last 10 years of it I was always sick,had insomnia that got worst, was always tired and some days I didn't even wanted to get out of the bed and I dreaded him coming home every night..I finally got the strength, took the kids and left. Suddenly, 6 months later the ulcer that I had for years just disappeared on its own, didn't get sick once since..Now I get up every morning, get plenty of sleep and rest, simply so much happy its hard to explain..I fix my hair, dress nicely,put make up on everyday and I have never been happier and healthier. Him on the other hand who was healthy as a horse when he was married to me has been sick, what a shame..If I stayed married to him I know I would have died much earlier but since I have been single, I am much more healthy, happy and so happy to wake up every morning..and I don't have to worry about who he is cheating on me with anymore..I am a good looking woman and I turn heads and he couldn't find someone better than me like he thought, and had to settle with a cow lol. My opinion is married men live longer and married women die early..However single women live longer, just like Denise said because we don't have to put up with their BS any longer. Those men want to have their cake and eat it too while with no disregard to their spouses happiness nor their health..Would I ever get remarried? No way!!not again!!I am more happier and healthier being single than being married so there you go :)

Denise 3933210, I agree with you on everything you wrote 1000%! :)

divorcees are always more fun to hook up with.

@ cassie. Let's see...you stayed in bed, got sick all the time, was always tired, etc. and you think your challenge was putting up with your husband's BS? You were the BS and after putting up with you for twenty years, no wonder he's sick now! Why couldn't you be more presentable when you were married to your husband? Maybe your sorry state is the reason you suspected that he was cheating. You certainly gave him reason.

I just wanted to reply to Tad.S and dontgivemethepenguin. That is not simply true. I am 5.4 and 110 lbs and have a body of a model, hair, face etc. I am pursued by many men daily, even in their twenties and I don't show my age. I have never let myself go, ever!! even when I was sick. 3 things I lived by, be a lady outside of the house, great cook in the kitchen and a complete porn star in bed, did it all but its simple, I guess I was married to a douche bag. It was never enough, and he cheated on me with skanks not even close to me in looks nor brain and was a mean tyrant.. He was selfish in every way, including in bed. When I dumped him he was begging for me to come back to him,(still does) but I didn't take him back and I won't.

Cassie, if true, you married a douche. My wife on the other hand, has somehow managed to double her weight in the last 10 years and then she wonders why I'm not interested. Duh! LOL.

Look ladies, and Gents just a couple of points I would like to make.

1) there is always BS on both sides from the Men and the Women. The amount of BS is not always proportionate but it is still there, and it is normally very hard to recognize your own brand of BS.

2) This one is directed mostly at the guys. Marry someone for their mind/personality not their body. A great body is a bonus but in the long haul everyone's body gets worse, if it doesn't get bigger it will at the very least loosen up, wrinkle and sag.

Good points Y - especially #2)

Tad.S yes it is completely true and yes he is, even after I had my son it took me 6 weeks to get back in to my normal weight, which is 110lbs. He made me misearable for years and I still took good care of myself,because I have respect for myself. I didnt keep in shape for him, I did it for me. Him on the other hand went bald, put about 45 lbs. Most people didnt even believe that a woman like me was his wife, yet he didnt appreciate what he had until he has lost it. Oh by the way, not once have I ever turned him down for sex, ever!

Right... I agree, too a point. For example while my wife has packed on 100+lbs in the last 10 years, I've picked up 25. It's tough to be 32 and be in the shape you were in at 22. However, it's ridiculous when you turn into a bouncy castle.

this comment is a load of BS, go fix yourself or get a life

Tad I am at my college weight 24 years later. take your blimp wife and you to a gym and start working out. DO NOT DELAY go today! You and your bride will be swinging from the ceiling fan in a few months.

Tad.S, I am in great shape and still do have a body of a 22 year old if not better and I am 39. Which most of my friends tell me that they will kill to have a body like mine. But that doesn't happen on its own, however besides me taken good care of my body, I will also admit that I do have good genes pass to me from my parents, because none of us ever had issues with weight. But you are absolutely right! I do have female friends which they really let themselves go after they got married and had kids..unfortunately..

I need a trainer at the gym. Would you be available to develop a training routine for me?

I was always sick,had insomnia that got worst, was always tired and some days I didn't even wanted to get out of the bed

I am divorced for over 10 years. I live in with my partner who refuses a lifetime commitment of five years together. I think I notice I have been dealing with these issues. I don't think he is cheating on me but maybe he is (?). If I must live on my own, I don't have a good budget, even to support myself on my own because I am born disabled so is my partner and I live on limited income. He works at nights five nights a week and I work at daytime only three to four days a week. He has a good paying job and doesn't spare his money on me but dating, events and vacations and on...I wish I had him to be there when I am home at night and he didn't have to sleep all day on my day offs. sometimes I get too bored, I find something else to do.

Sigh... I get so tired of one sided irrational comments like this and Cassey... They are perfect men are slime bags.. your bias, past trauma and anger are undeniable. Not to mention that your made up facts are comical... Women cheat just as much as men.. there are just as many (if not more) men "trapped" in unhealthy relationships by controling and destructive women so no one is going to take you seriously until you stop the blind gender bashing... Plus it makes you look like a small child that is not capable of having an adult relationship.

Denise and Cassis we don't care about your personal bias... if you want to educate yourself and take responsibility for your "Gender" then here are some actual facts... not emotional rant:

Cassie... no matter how much of a Looser your husband was... out of 8 billion people on the planet YOU chose him to marry (in formt of family / god / etc)... not only marry but have kids with.. Your choice.... Maybe you should look closer at your part in the whole demise... not to mention the increased risks that you subject your kids to because you didn't made bad choices or weren't able or willing to repair the relationship with they actual biological father... sad.. don't expect us to feel sorry for you.. I feel sorry for your kids and Ex... you destroyed the falimy YOU created. BTW... you go girl:

I am laughing at some of these posts.... oh my gawd....

When I was young and dumb, one of the things that I all ready knew was "meet the girl, go meet the parents" you knew what was in store for you in the future in most cases...

The pathology of a child is the pathology of the parent... if the parent had issues, 90% of the time that kid was going to have issues also... now what about the other 10%? you might just be lucky that the child took a different path in life....

Pretty accurate point Major.

Hey one of you, who thinks it's so funny at me being a disabled person who CANNOT afford to live on own with a limited income. It is a fact, I am! being deaf is NOT so funny! I'd love to if I were a hearing person who CAN afford to live on my own and enjoy being single. I hated putting up with a man who treated me poorly in my first marriage and a few relationships I had. Now I have a last partner who lives with me, I could NEVER able to afford and support myself completely! Stop laughing or you will be sorry once you have a new member of a disabled person in YOUR family someday, you never know.. Have a nice day.

wow, read these posts...I still weigh nothing...I look like a model...I work out at the gym...people, people.... are you all 15? no WONDER you're single...what a bunch of vapid nonsense.

@AP-1414066: you're totally right. Men don't like high maintenance women who are full of themselves, no matter how beautiful they might be.

Ah, I've wanted to know why my mother (she's 41), who's like 60 pounds heavier than me, still gets hit by plenty of men on daily basis?! It seems that in the end, men are not as shallow as the media has made us believe. Confidence is what really matters.

Plus, I'm just starting to discover that a great body is not what makes a man fall in love with a woman.

The only bad thing about being a single, childless woman, is the exceptionally higher cost to live. All my apartments were labeled 'market' and I never got advantages that single moms get with housing and other programs. So, eventually, I became someone who struggled with forever rising bills and costs of living, until I was no longer "creditworthy" because I choose to remain unmarried. I also worked for the Post Office for several years too, but this didn't do much for the expenses dealt to me! This is not fair to single people! :(

live within your means

i totally agree. It's no longer just a man's world. Divorced women raising their children keeping up the house and a full time job become stronger and wiser and not to mention BUSY all the time. To busy to put up with a man's BS. Also being finically secure makes life alot better. This also applies to woman who have never married or have children. A good career, nice friends and a decent social life can make for a pretty good life. What a waste of time this so-called research was......

I think your assessment is very ridiculous. I find this finding interesting, but by no means do I believe that singles die younger. And as for the whole husbands cheat thing... I have been cheated on by the FEMALE and have seen multiple men leaving their wives after the wife cheated. It is not just the man.

You suppose it's the cheating that keeps them happier and healthier?

I'm with you, Karikata!!!

Hahahah...I'm with you, Karikata!

i agree totally are all the good studies already been done

You mean a tilde?

Your computer completly understands the tilde. Blame the keyboard.

If it's a laptop, buy a 20 dollar USB keyboard, and you'll have your tilde back.

And anyone who doesn't like the results of a study (which if you read the article is actually pouring through a whole lot of well known studies) is free to ignore it rather than dismiss the whole point of research.

Well said AP.

I would have to agree with the isolation. Humans are pretty social animals.

I personally believe "love" is one of our basic needs for survival...watch a baby to get your answer. The baby that is loved thrives, the baby that is neglected doesn't thrive so well and has to "fight" to survive. In a relationship where there is LOVE the fight for survival doesn't really exist, you are both each others STRENGTH in your weaknesses. LOL, just my input anyway.

I'm not sure that the primary impact of human connection is psychological. There are plenty of practical reasons being in a relationship could influence longevity. I know for one that, last year, I fell ill with a virus and became incoherent, developing sepsis shortly thereafter. If I hadn't been living with another person, my wife, I very likely would have died, since my incoherence would have prevented me from getting help. I'm not saying that that is a common occurrence, but it would have cut my life short by about 30 years or so. Add to that the little ways we share the load (sharing the driving on a long trip so that we don't fall asleep at the wheel, sharing the cooking duties so that we're more likely to get a home-cooked meal with vegetables, having insurance available when we find ourselves between jobs, etc.) and I'm not surpised that the average age of death could move significantly. Add in the decreased risk of diseases like AIDS (for those of us who remain monogamous), and the likelihood that a parent is going to take fewer risks with their lives so that they can be there for their children, and I can see that it wouldn't take a wholesale change in psychological state to bring about these results. I think it just represents the net effect of a lot of little coincidental benefits.

Totally agree with you maxwello

Very good question. Are the never-married downers to begin with and that leads to negative consequences? For ethical reasons, Human research usually leads to correlations rather than cause-effect relationships.

An interesting observation, many of these research dont take into account the reasons as to why first. Marrige does mean certain things like responsabilities for multiple reasons and thus, a more mature personality. Single life tends to be more liberal, I would know I'm a single man. Somethimes one has to wonder if perhaps a second opinion would help in eating habits or such things. Also, I have read somewhere in an article that sex reduces prostate cancer for men and stress for both sexes.

I think Jackie got it right. People who don't want to get married & those who cant find
someone to marry may have other serious issues.

A few outliers doesn't make a significant difference to the average age. Please go learn some math and statistics, stop using anecdotal evidence, and then come back.

There you go sounding reasonable when people do not want reason, they want justification for their choices.

"Congratulations" My parents are celebrating their 50th in a couple of months, I've witnessed them two holding each other up many many times.

Whenever I am apart from those that I care about, I tend not to prepare meals often,
so I skip meals & practice other bad health habits or rather just do nothing. If I have someone
with me who is totally dependent, I would gladly do the hunting/gathering, return to base &
make sure everyone is a happy camper.

You're right - it seems like the results of one study are cancelled out by the next study

And the ladies thank you.

No doubt.

The study didn't look at divorced couples, so being "stuck with someone you hate" was probably not a frequent occurance.

The economy will turn around eventually, or you will find a better job, or something will change. One thing's for sure - everything changes. One morning, something will change and you won't be sorry to wake up alive anymore.

Sweet words Jackie. I hope Joy reads them and it helps. :O)

Joy,

Think about your own name, "Joy" means something. Please dont feel bad to wake up everyday and be sad. For starters, get a small dog. Dogs are great company and they are the ultimate freind. They never let you down or make you feel crapy, or ever judge you!

Like Jackie said here " everything changes" and "everyday is a new day" don't worry about the economy. Economy can not bring you happiness, cause it is controlled and manipulated by dumb republicans. But lfe, friends, and little little things can bring hapiness and JOY!. Secondly: Reach out to other cultures, learn from them. There are great people out there in other parts of the world so poor but very happy within themselves!!

Just get out of the mundane rut, change your norm, go for a walk, get a little exercise, do some yoga....dont let others ruin your joyful life. Life is an adventure!

Hey mr potato head....ya almost had my vote until you wrote "dumb republicans". Keep the politics out of this one and you'll do fine. Just a thought.

RIGHT ON BROTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Wait. "All the times you took your kids so the other could do her thing".

You do realize they were YOUR kids too?

Bingo. I think we see the problem. This wasn't a marriage...this was bondage. (Poor kids!)

quoting a metal band? you've gotta be in your 20s.... "single all my life" lol, you're still just a baby!

Warpigs(Black Sabbath) holds just as true today as it did 40 years ago. There is nothing wrong with metal. I saw Iron Maiden a few months back there were as many 50 year olds as 15 year olds.

Yes I am in my 20s, so what?

Thanks for backing me up Mike, there's nothing wrong with metal. And a lot of metal bands have very SMART quotes in their lyrics....why else would I have posted it?

hahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! love it thank you for the laugh

I was looking for that comment, surprised it wasn't the first one.

exactly

So true

You think that most spouses would "have your back" during a serious illness? Perhaps if the illness is short and no financial harm results... Check the statistics of married couples in which one partner gets a serious chronic (long tern) illness and see how the divorce rate skyrockets, especially if the sick partner is the wife.

I immediately thought of Edwards, the Newt & McCain.

Names in the news and what about those that we don't read about?

Having a quiet peaceful house with a pet or two is bliss compared to wondering

where the 'mate' is and why dinner is sitting cold on the table....or.......

As a single father, I can tell you that being single does not disagree with me one bit. No one there wrongfully trying to change me into someone I'm not, never having to worry about whether or not I meet some pre-defined criteria that she read in Cosmo or some other trash-rag. No, I would say that being single is better for the most part.

But there is a part that isn't. We all know what it is. It is that part of us that at a primal level both wants and needs to be connected to another, no matter who that might be. It is that part that holds up our soul and connects our hearts. It is that part that allows us to stare deeply, (and yes, it is staring), into the eyes of our partner and know this is the one you have trusted to hold you. It's that conversation I had with her that I looked forward to every damned day I finally got home to see her. To talk, to listen, to be.
We know it exists. We just need to allow ourselves to have it.

Wow Steve! Well said! Being single has its most satisfying and satirical perks (yes, I do believe you laugh a little more when single); however, you pointed out something that is vital to a human heart- another heart to communicate so profoundly with.

@joy1883026- you say you're sorry for waking up. Its amazing how many people feel like that-like you do. I used to at one point myself. Then things turned around for me that made me realize what if I didn't wake up and experienced the blessings from God that was bestowed on me? What if I wasn't here to meet new people, have a new job, have a new beginnings? Things change. Always. Hang in there. I used to think about not wanting to be alive. That was great what Jackie said to you.

Liveurlife1566 - Thank You!

I forgot to note: That outlook comes from having had a love in my life that was on that level. I have held that magic in my hands and my heart, and it's worth it!!!

(And even though I'm not together with her today, I love her still.)

There are perks and disadvantages of being single. It makes sense that being single could potentially be hazardous to your health. But dating someone annoying can do that too. I guess it all depends. :)